I had wanted a corgi for a number of years. My sis has a mix and she is the best dog in the world. I finally got the chance in Dec. 2010. A local shelter had a red/blonde 5 year old ready for a home. I've been owned by dogs all of my life, including sporting and hearding dogs, so I had no qualms. What I failed to take into consideration was the completely unthinkable fact that my new husband had never had a dog and thought they were all lassie. Now his 80's parents live here also and they believe the same thing. I've tried teaching them how to deal with a smart, strong-willed dog but they don't get it. How do you teach people that what they are doing tells a dog that these people are idiots and don't deserve anything more than, say, omega, status? I know that my Roxi does have some issues, but these are made worse by the responses that she does/doesn't get. She doesn't jump on me, waits for her food, waits at the door if I remind her, and has pretty good recall (some lizards just can't be ignored). If I'm in the kitchen and she's underfoot (I know, shock!) then I tell her to go lay on the carpet. I may have to reinforce it, but when she knows I'm serious, she lays down and waits.
Don't want her in the room while you're eating? Don't feed her there....pretty simple to me. I get so tired of "Roxi, please...". As if that actually means anything. I hate to babygate her because stupid people moved in. Any way of training people how to actually see their behavior is reflected in the dog's? And at this point, tact isn't a consideration. This is my dog we're talking about.
Good luck with that! If you watch any dog training shows on TV it becomes very apparent that the people are much harder to train. If you can get your husband to take over during some of the obedience classes that does help. The insructors apparently are better at telling our husbands what to do also :)
In my case Bev....hubbies are more willing to listen to others(lol). Maybe if you can get them to "help" you with the dog??? example: have them put the food they would feed her aside on their plate and then AFTER the meal give it to her as training treats for doing something they want her to do????? This is a hard one:(
I have a son-in-law that is awful at training and they just got a new pup...I straight out had to tell hime that while I know how much he loves his pup...he is teaching her bad habits! He will also be the one taking her to classes so I am hoping this will help. I know how frustrating this can be.
On the nosey!
Unfortunately she has him trained. He moves around her, opens the door whenever she goes to it (mostly to hunt lizards), and then gets aggravated because she does what corgis do. As for the in-laws, even if she didn't try to feed the dog, she drops stuff all of the time so Rox has learned that kitchen time is scrap time. Basically I'm having to either babygate her when I'm not here or be right on her while I'm teaching her to stay on the carpet. She already knows the command, but if the others aren't re-inforcing it while I'm not here or not watching things Rox gets yelled at and then I have to jump in. As for the working with the mother-in-law? I'll keep buying lottery tickets. But thanks for the feedback. Glad to know I'm not alone in this battle of wills.
You are asking the impossible! You need to pick your battles and if you consider your husband or his parents stupid or idiots it can only get worse. Start by thinking that people have different styles of interacting with animals and the dog CAN become a bonding and healing element in your home, rather than a source of so much friction and resentment. Pick one or two points that are the most important to you and make these a firm rule that they need to agree to. Give in everywhere else you can. Where you can't, then remove the dog without making an issue of it, as if you had a toddler ( outside, crate, baby gate, leash... whatever gives you physical control of the dog ). You want them to enjoy and love the dog their way as much as possible, when you have that love in common and can laugh at her cleverness in figuring out what she can do with whom, things can gradually begin to improve.
Look at her as an in home "therapy dog" and help her become that. Good luck.
I realize that it's the impossible dream. I have picked my battles since she moved in, but the animals are important to me and I'd like for them (Rox) to be able to be a part of the whole family. She does have a neurotic tendency to noises which aggravates things. I've already started babygating her when I can't be here for a meal prep/cleanup (this takes hours during the day). She has now learned "get on the carpet" and it works for me. I am trying to watch her very closely so that as soon as she heads for the kitchen I can get her back onto the carpet and out from under feet. As for making a firm rule, not happening. So, I am now working on getting her to be on her best behavior for me and hoping it will transfer to other members. Other than that, she'll be behind a gate for quite a bit of time. It would be nice if there were common ground, especially with Rox, but this is not a reality. I appreciate your feedback.