My Corgi isn't very affectionate. Did I do something wrong?

This has been bugging me for the longest time! My little guy, Oodeveer is over a year old and has NEVER been very affectionate. He hates to be held, will only allow me to scratch his neck or pet him for a short time, doesn't follow me around, won't lick me and just doesn't seem to "love" me like I've seen other Corgies do. Addie, his little sister is about a eight months old and is the exact opposite, she's very loving, likes to be held and cuddled and will follow me all around the house. Oodeveer is a smart dog and is very well behaved, doesn't have any aggresive or unusual behaviors, gets along well with his sister and is very friendly with strangers but he's just so ultra independent. I know dogs' personalities can vary from dog to dog but it bothers me he doesn't show affection like most other dogs. It seems he really hasn't bonded with me. Is this something unusual?

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I don't think it's a Corgi thing as much as an individual dog thing. Every dog has his/her own personality and we have to respect that they may not like what we WANT them to like.

My corgi Simon doesn't seem to like sitting on laps, and his tolerance for me holding him is limited at best. At this point, he's gotten good with ME holding him, but anyone else and he wiggles like crazy. I had -- and still have, he's only 9 weeks old -- hopes to have him be a therapy dog. But if this turns out to be typical behavior from him, it won't happen. :( He may just like his personal space. He likes belly rubs though -- so you never know.

My other dog is a pitbull mix, and she HATES having her 'personal space' invaded -- by ME. Anyone else she'll be all 'kissy kissy' with, but ME? Pffft. If she lets me pet her it's a good day -- UNLESS I'm giving attention to Simon. THEN she wants lovin' (she's a VERY jealous girl). OR when it thunderstroms. Then she wants to be on top of me, she's so scared.

I'm really hoping Simon doesn't end up being like Josie, cause my boy that just passed away, he was a 'velcro dog' all the way -- I miss that, and I was kinda hoping Simon would be that close to me since Josie isn't. But, if he's not, I'll respect that, as long as he's a good boy that's all that matters.
They all just have their own personalities. Izzy and Misty always want some one to pet them. Anyone will do. Sparty only wants to be fussed over when he is in the mood. Your dog may be more attached to you than you realize, he just may not demonstrate it in the same way.
Magnus is like this. He likes affection and cuddles, but it must be on his terms. He only wants cuddles when he wants them. But when he does, he jumps in my lap and snuggles and is very vocal. We call it his "I love you" noise - not a bark, more a growl - very deep. His bark on the other hand is so high pitched I swear he could shatter glass.

Violet is super cuddley. She will crawl into my lap and snuggle down like human baby - i.e., head on my chest with me holding her so I can rub her tummy. She also likes me to rock her.

But the both like to be in the same room we are. They prefer to stay in sight of us - and they sleep in their crate at night. Violet would probably love to sleep in our bed (and does when/if we nap) but Magnus prefers to sleep in the bathroom.
Yes, you are a bad, bad mommy and Oodeveer told me that if you give him more treats he "may" let you have a cuddle or two.

Wally is 16 months and is about the same.   He doesn't go crazy when we come up, doesn't jump on us overly excited but does it with strangers.    However, he's starting to come around as this winter and now spring time, he continues to do the belly up and rub on the ground.   I make a point to give him a belly rub if he lets me.

I've also started to pick him up on me and allowing him to lay 1/2 his body on the sofa arm.   We relax and he's getting more comfortable from time to time.   It's the only way he's getting on the couch.    Yesterday he layed in the same spot but this time dropped himself on the side with his head on the inside of my elbow.    It was comfortable but even for me it was getting too warm, so I know where they might get the discomfort..    :)

As you say, it's probably just the personality but he might turn around.   Either way, I'm sure he knows he's being loved and doesn't have to worry about having his food or walks on time.

LOL....no.  Typical corgi.  Depends on their temperament too, but overall Corgis are meant to work independently.  My female is not cuddly at all.  She tolerates me really.  Unless I have food, she's scared (which is rare), hurt, or in trouble.  Then I'm the cat's meow.  Otherwise she MAY follow me in to a room, but it's rare.  I'm really just a presence in her room.  My other corgi that was a rescue though, he is a snuggle bug.  His herding instincts could use some work though...he's not the brightest banana in the bunch, where Seanna is a whiz at herding.

Considering my previous comments on this forum over the past year, I've come to realize that some of the submitted questions are really difficult to answer, as they entitle the need to consider various and complex set of dynamics within the family.  For example:

* relationship between members, personalities of said members and the dog itself;

* physiological and psychological development and health of the dog;

* exposure to social situations in human setting and with other fellow canines, other animals, children, etc.

* Immediate living environment (city, suburbs, country side, cottage)

* Introduction to a new family pets or human (new born)

* adjustments to now sharing human companion with other members of the family, etc.

This is not a critic on this particular post but rather how even for myself, when questions have been sought, have been overwelmed with the variety and uniqueness of answer from each members.    This just reinforces me to beleive that when we wonder why our dogs "do what they do" sometimes, seeking answers on a forum like this can be difficult.

Although, I completely agree with the level of knowledge it can provide, while giving some form of support and even a sense of ease that we're not going crazy with our furry friends...   :)

 

On a last comment, I have noticed lately that since Wally has not been crated during the day, that he seems closer to the male cat.   I've even seen them play together, which yes Wally has chased him but KD would just snap at this nose or walk away.   This time KD was actually running away and waiting to be chased.    Guess this is the positive result of having more time alone together to get to know each other without the barriers of a crate.

I thought the same thing when I brought home Darby. I was expecting to have a dog who wanted to be around me every second and would follow me around the house, but Darby was definitely not into that. I would put her on our bed at night and try to pet her but she would just jump off and I would find her curled up, alone on the couch.

We just noticed (she just turned 1) that she is starting to be more affectionate and spending more time around us. She will now jump up on the bed or  the couch and curl up beside us or follow me around the house in the morning. I am not really sure what changed, maybe it is because she getting older or that I stopped trying so hard to have her show affection

This sounds totally normal. Some dogs are snuggle-bugs and some are not, just like kids. It doesn't mean that he isn't bonded with you or doesn't love you. He's just not a corgi who wears his heart on his paw. Our first corgi would sit on my lap for hours and snuggle up with me in bed. Our current corgi will climb onto my lap every once in a while for about 5 minutes at a stretch and will sleep at my feet, but not snuggle up. Just different personalities.

Can I just say I love the name you gave your corgi (Oodeveer).. How did you come up with that?

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