So we added Charlotte to our family about 2 1/2 months ago. Stanley has taken to her very well. However, there's been one change in Stanley's behavior that I find quite curious and was wondering what ya'll thought of it. Basically, before Charlotte came home, Stanley slept in our bed with us. We did allow this and whether or not we should have is a whole other discussion. Anyways, when we brought Charlotte home, she slept in a crate in our living room. Stanley continued to sleep in our bed. After a few weeks (I think maybe 2.5 to 3 weeks later), we moved Charlotte's crate to our bedroom. Her puppy class trainer suggested that puppies should sleep in crates in the owner's bedrooms b/c she said it helps strengthen the bond. Ok, sure. So into our bedroom she went, albeit in a crate. Well, the night that happened, Stanley slept in his bed - a bed we bought him when he was a puppy but had only slept in a handful of times (the bed is on the floor of our bedroom, opposite side from her crate). Ok, a little peculiar but I didn't think too much of it. It was around the same time the weather turned cooler here in FL and I think we had put heavier blankets on our bed. I attributed the change to that. Well, weeks have passed and Stanley continues to sleep in his bed and pretty much never goes on to our bed at all anymore. He used to jump up there and lie on it for naps but he doesn't even do that anymore. And now that Charlotte is bigger, she loves to jump up on our bed and lounge on it but still Stanley never joins her.
These new sleeping arrangements are not a problem per se, but I just was curious what was going on in Stanley's head that he now doesn't want to be on the bed? And even though I complained about him sleeping in our bed (all the fur, all the room he takes up, hogging my pillow), now I totally miss waking up next to the furry, slobbery bed hog.
We have put him on the bed and he kinda just looks at us and then jumps back down. (We have a step to the bed so it's easy for them to get on/off).
I just wish I could get inside that brain of his!
Copper did this too! Copper slept in his crate as a pup and then when he was big enough, he started jumping up and sleeping in me and my boyfriend's bed. As he started to get bigger, it was getting to be summer and sometimes he would sleep on the bathroom floor where it was cool. Then he started to sleep up on the bed again come fall and about a month later, we got Flash and Copper quit again. Flash is our cat/dog. He is mistaken that he truly is a dog as he sits, plays fetch, sits pretty on command, and talks back... did I mention he's obsessed with water? Well, anyway, Copper and Flash get along great; they are like brothers, truly. But now, Copper seems to shun me when it's time for bed because Flash is on the bed. He will look at me as I plead for him to come up, then he makes his chewbacca sound and heads for his ''room'' (his crate/boycave) or the bathroom. I don't get it. And sometimes he will come up but only for a second and then he huffs like we inconvenienced him; then he's off for the bathroom again. He always has me scratching my head!
hmmmm..... we crate trained both Soffie and Griffyn and both were left in another room during the night for sleeping. Our time frame for this, for both, was one year. Ie: we got Soffie first, she slept in her crate for a year. On the night we left her crate door open I fully expected her to go to Dawn's room and sleep with her (since Dawn is home every day with her) but .... surprise, surprise she hopped right up on the bed with me! And that is where she has slept ever since!! (with exception during her recovery from acl tear)
Griffyn.... we got him after Soffie turned 1 year old. We basically did the same crate training with him. One year, crate in the kitchen. After one year, we left the crate door open. And his choice is to Sleep Around!!! Some nights he sleeps with Dawn .... others he comes into my room and some nights he sleeps in his crate. Then there are the nights where he moves from place to place. BUT ..... when he is in my room, he sleeps on the floor (I'm thinking Soffie must have given him the word)
Now... here's where it gets interesting.... when we stay in motels with them..... Soffie usually starts off sleeping on Dawns bed and Griffyn is on mine. Then sometime in the night Soffie usually moves over and I end up with both of them in the bed with me!!! So who knows what they are thinking, when they make their choices!! But I definitely believe that at home it's territorial!!
My suggestion for you would be to move Charlotte back to where you had her to begin with. I think Stanley got his nose out of joint and now he's punishing you!! (Soffie is a master at punishing me!!) And then just let him decide to join you in the bed again, at his own pace. I know what you mean about missing him in the bed. The time it took for Soffie to recover from her acl and she was back in her crate, was harder on me for sure, than it was on her!!
His sleeping arrangements, like many of his behaviors, just leaving me scratching my head. They are curious creatures and that's what's so great about them! I'm not worried about him. If I have to be honest, I'm more concerned about me losing my snuggle time with him!
I'm sure it's just a matter of time before Charlotte's sleeping in bed with us. She looks pretty darn comfy on the bed right now, lol!