So I went away for about a week and a half to help my dad move down to North Carolina, from Upstate NY. It was a grueling 14hr drive one way.
I left the dog home because (a)my Aunt doesn't really like dogs, and (b) her fiance is severely allergic to animals. Like we went to a Zoo and he broke out and had an attack just from being at the Zoo, and this guy loves animals to death, I really feel bad for him.
So I left my dog at home, with my fiance. We had a training plan in order, he was told before I left to remember to make sure every-time he left the house the dog went in his crate. The dog wasn't crated the whole time I was gone. Instead of crating him he put laundry baskets around in the areas my dog liked to chew the floor while we were out. While it worked, it wasn't the right message to the dog because the dog can easily just chew a new spot.
We also had a thing going where the dog was not allowed on the furniture unless invited up. This has been a problem since day one with training. My fiance just doesn't get what inviting the dog up means or something. My fiance will sit down on the couch and the dog will jump up after him, and I will say down, then he will chime in and say "I was going to invite him up anyways..." then I tell him thats not the point he doesn't know the difference. Then its a personal attack against my fiance and he gets pissy for the whole night because I had to explain to him (again) that if the dog jumps up on his own its not an invite.
Despite this, I worked around my fiance and trained the dog to stay off the couch. In the week and a half I was gone, he completely untrained him. Then when I said something about it the second night I was back, he rebuttled with "well he wasn't trained before you left." I was pissed and just said well he might have done it with you but I had it so at least when I was around he stayed off the couch, and it shut him up.
Now every-time we leave a room he is up on the furniture again. Which he was banned from because of past indiscretions of guarding against the cats.
He untrained him to wait when coming in from outdoors. We put him out on a runner when he goes out to poop so that I can know he is safe and do what I need to do while he is outside. Then when he comes in its sit, wait (undo his collar) then release. My fiance does all three at the same time. He says sit while he is undoing the collar, then before the collar is even off he's saying release. So the dog wont wait, I can get him to sit, but the minute I start undoing his collar he is already trying to bolt through the house.
If I even try to talk about it my fiance takes it as a personal attack, that he can't do anything right, and to be honest I'm getting kinda sick of it, and am adding that to my list of reasons to rehome my dog. I keep telling him that him not being on the same page with me on training is not only unfair to me, but its unfair to the dog because the dog isn't getting the structure he needs. He has one person telling him one thing while the other person is doing something different and it frustrates the dog, and confuses him. But for some reason my fiance gets offended and starts the argument of So you think the dog is stupid?
This is an argument of him saying that a dog should be so smart that it can tell the difference, when I say hes not, he's not much smarter than a three year old, and his counter is that well three year olds are pretty smart I'm sure they could tell. And its that back and forth argument forever.
I'm sorry I just had to get that out. </rant>