Corgi Custody

I am just wondering if anyone else has had to deal with issues of corgi "custody." I adopted my little Shayleigh about two months ago, while I was living with and dating my ex-boyfriend. The ex and I are currently still living together because of financial issues, but soon we'll be in separate homes. There is no doubt that Shayleigh will go with me, she is definitely most attached to me and I'm the primary caregiver for her. However, there is also no doubt that my ex really loves Shayleigh (obviously, who wouldn't?). Has anybody else had to deal with similar issues? Did you try to let the ex see the puppy or did you just cut ties all together?

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Permalink Reply by Aj on April 18, 2009 at 12:03am

I think it all depends on how you would feel. Would you feel comfortable letting your ex come see the puppy?

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Permalink Reply by DR, Nala & Simon on April 18, 2009 at 6:03am

I agree with Aj. It all comes down on how you feel. Shayleigh will always be happy to see your ex. How about meeting on neutral ground? Like in a dog park?

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Permalink Reply by Shayleigh's mom on April 18, 2009 at 10:51am

Yeah, a neutral place might be a good idea, I'll keep that in mind. I just want to do what is best for the puppy and not be selfish.

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Permalink Reply by Deanna on April 19, 2009 at 2:27pm

Wow! That's a tough one. If you continue to allow "visitation" to the ex, how is it going to work for you in a new relationship? How about the two of you looking for another one just for him? Shayleigh, will acclimate in time, as long as you give her all the attention, nurturing, and discipline needed, but your feeelings of guilt will be noticed and felt by Shayleigh and she may display them through displays of listlessness, confusion. If you adopted, aren't there papers in your name only? Lots of things to think about here, getting on with your life is also very important.

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Permalink Reply by Carmen on April 19, 2009 at 6:17pm

I agree with Deanna, I would look advise him to get another pup. My friend recently moved out from her home. Her guy bought a new puppy to fill the void of the leaving pup. It has worked out well for them.

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Permalink Reply by Lauren + Winston on April 19, 2009 at 6:59pm

Well, Winston is legally mine. But my boyfriend and I consider him ours. He and I did break up for about a month, last year. I would've let him see Winston, but he didn't want to at the time (the breakup was pretty unexpected). If you feel comfortable letting your ex see Shayleigh, then by all means, let them hang out. I know Winston missed Justin TERRIBLY and when he did see Justin he flipped out. So I know it's probably good to let her see him every once in a while. But it's up to how comfortable you are.