New Corgi Owner - Updated Advice Request
Hi there, i posted a blog a few days ago looking for some advice on our unaffectionate, timid new corgi. So since then things havn't progressed and if anything he's regressed in his potty training. My breeder thinks we should return our puppy to her because she thinks it's not a good fit and that the temperament test just didn't pan out. She is the rescue coordinator for new england so he won't be going to some shelter or anything. She'll most likely keep him or give him to another breeder. He's not very inquisitive, overly friendly, or confident either. He generally seems unhappy most of the time with the exception for an hour or so of happiness with us. A lot of people are saying this is just a puppy fear stage and him adjusting to his new surroundings, his separation anxiety from his litter mates, mother, etc. But it has been two full weeks i took all of last week off to spend with him and my girlfriend has been home most of the time off as well, so its been an accelerated 2 weeks. To boot, his socialization with strangers were very often as we would run into at least 2-3 sets of people everyitme we went to take him out to the bathroom because we live in a dog friendly apartment. It seems like he should have adjust by now. We were certainly expecting to see some slow progressoin but in the stranger dept, zero has been made. The breeder is concerned about his fear and (what will become aggression issues) and thinks we should return him to her and she'll refund our money. Is this the right thing to do? Are we giving up too quickly? We really don't feel too bonded with him because he rarely wants to be around us when we're laying around and when we're outside he's just sniffing and eating stuff so we don't get a ton of the walking bonding either. She seems to think he'll be happier in another situation. Is it the best thing for the dog to just return him and have her keep him?
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Comment by Anna Morelli on August 18, 2012 at 1:41pm
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Hard on everybody, but I would return the pup to the breeder as she is asking you to do. She is best qualified to deal with the pup and is acting responsibly. She may be able to point you in another direction as well. I would see if she is willing to help you in that way.
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Comment by Tomi and Story on August 18, 2012 at 10:10am
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I am so sorry, you both must be heartbroken, and poor puppy...I can't imagine how he must feel being so withdrawn all the time. I agree with the others that returning him to the breeder is a good idea, and kudos to her for supporting you guys! Our Story was happy, happy from minute 1. She was a trooper on the 7 hour drive home, she adjusted to our home like she had always been there, and she has never fussed in her crate. She is high energy and DEMANDS our attention! She does everything and goes everywhere with us, yet she also is able to be by herself without a fuss. You guys have done it right, taken time off, tried hard to bond. This puppy just wasn't meant to be, but please don't give up, you deserve an amazing Corgi and there are many, many of them out there (as you can tell on this site!) Good luck and keep us posted!
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Comment by Beth on August 17, 2012 at 10:47pm
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I know it must be traumatic and that's understandable, but I do encourage you to stay open to the idea of the December puppy. I know it's not the same thing, but when I lost my sweet cat who had been with me since I graduated college, I thought my heart would break and I did not think I'd ever want another cat. Within a few months, though, we saw Boo for adoption in PetSmart and she just won us over. I am so glad we got her as soon as she did. It is true that they help heal the trauma of past experiences.
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Comment by Rusty on August 17, 2012 at 9:16pm
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About getting another puppy: She will not be able to get me another puppy but I would be able to get one from another breeder in december as I was on her waiting list first. That said, this has been sort of traumatic for us, I'm not sure we're going to dive back in quite this early.
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Comment by Marcie on August 17, 2012 at 8:47pm
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As hard as it is I would go with the breeder's recommendation, or maybe try one more week. When I was looking for my pup I talked to several Mayflower club breeders. They all had the dogs best interest as their focus. Becca was eight months when I got her and I didn't see her real personality until week two. Well, the stubborn side I saw week one...
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Comment by Bev Levy on August 17, 2012 at 8:22pm
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That is a shame but with her experience I would take her advice. Sometimes it just doesn't work and that is why you go to a good breeder.
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Comment by Ciara & Macy on August 17, 2012 at 7:47pm
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I'm so sorry that this puppy didn't work out for you. Some puppies just don't click well in some homes and they have a personality meant for someone else's home. Did the breeder say she can't give you another puppy now or she can't give you another puppy ever? if she has another litter I would try to get another puppy after a little while or when you think you can handle it. She seems like a very responsible breeder and I would take her advice and give the corgi back, After having him for 2 weeks there should be some progression, at least a little, in his behavior. Maybe he just has a shy personality and needs to be in a more calm situation. or with a more experienced person. I think the most responsible thing to do would be to give him back to the breeder and let her find a better suited home or a home with her.
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Comment by Brooke Busteed on August 17, 2012 at 7:23pm
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I know EXACTLY what you are going through only I got my corgi from a pet store with a NO RETURN policy. I am now stuck with a dog that has no emotions what so ever, but what can I do. I just have bad luck I guess.
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I would be totally heart-broken. But please realize it IS the right thing to do if he is not adjusting. Be prepared that you may get a fair amount of flack from friends and neighbors. If you read Patricia McConnell's blog, she recently had an experience where she rehomed a pup who did not work out and she's one of the best dog behaviorists in the world. Weird things happen. It is terribly unlikely you would have another sad experience if you tried again. It was really bad luck that this happened once, let alone twice. I know you must feel gutted, but none of us can predict how things will turn out in life and you may look back and realize it turned out to be a good thing. The perfect Corgi is out there waiting for you and this little guy may end up with someone who turns him into a top agility dog or puts him on a farm with sheep or something. You just don't know. My husband is fond of saying "Good thing, bad thing, who can say?" and that wisdom has helped me through some rough spots. Hang in there.
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She's on the registered breeder list for the new england breed club and is the rescue coordinator, so she's legit. I think she's been doing it for 10 years or so. She obviously isn't going to breed him and I think would either just keep him or place him with another experienced corgi person. I'm just so devestated. She will not be able to get me another puppy but I would be able to get one from another breeder in december as I was on her waiting list first. That said, this has been sort of tramatic for us, I'm not sure we're going to dive back in quite this early.
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