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Permalink Reply by Geri & Sidney on April 21, 2008 at 1:56pm

They do seem to bond with one person, at least based on what I noticed in our family. We adopted Bruce to be my daughter's dog, but he decided to bond to me, and hardly gives anyone else the time of day, though he will not refuse a good belly rub or treat.

When we decided to try again with Sidney, we wanted to make sure he bonded with my daughter, since she plans to train him in agility or as a therapy dog if he has no agility skills. When we brought him home we made sure he lived in my daughter's living area and she would be the one to feed, groom and train him. Luckily it worked and he is her "baby". He shadows her the way Bruce shadows me.

I don't know what to say about your situation. I'm sure Mochi loves you very much and she must be a great blessing in your life.
It almost seems the male dogs attach to the females in my family, and the females attach to the guys. Has anyone noticed this tendency?

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Permalink Reply by Josh on April 25, 2008 at 12:06pm

I haven't really noticed that tendency. Merlin (male) seems to pay a bit more attention to me rather than my wife. I don't doubt we've bonded but it can be unfortunate sometimes when other people want to dole out the lovin'.

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Permalink Reply by Laurie on April 21, 2008 at 2:53pm

Rosie is like my shadow. Where ever I am she is. She follows me downstairs to do laundry, into the bathroom when I take a shower and to bed with me when I go to bed. She will lay with her head on my foot while I watch TV. Rosie's second best buddy is my husband. If my husband is out working in the field and Rosie sees me when I come home from work she will come at a dead run to greet me.

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Permalink Reply by Avyon on April 21, 2008 at 11:06pm

I feel what your saying. I joke with my other-half saying I'll get my own puppy someday. We started out great equally training and taking care of her so she was actually pretty well bonded to the both of us. When I moved down here to VA for a while it seems the bond shifted to him in a short time (which is understandable). It just hurts because Im the one who wanted a corgi, wanted that special little person in my life, hunted down, convinced the other half and in such a short while had to give that up (which is not her fault and I still love her soo soo dearly). Don't get me wrong, she still treats me like "mom" and loves me like "mom" but she's a daddy's girl and I've slowly learned to understand that.

Some of the ways we've dealt with it is a bit of a struggle sometimes but we're hoping to get it back. When I give a command and she ignores me (usually the first few hours we see each other again) she'll turn to my other half and he's learned to turn away, making me the focus point and reteaching her that she has to listen to both of us. we also act like nothing has changed either, if we're hanging out and she starts to follow him upstairs i'll call her back.. if she doesn't come I'll treat it like a missed command and go and correct her. This may seem cruel (and I don't do it all the time) but I've noticed after two or three times she'll stay with me again and eventually act like her old self again. I do a little extra throughout the day (which my other half enjoys lol a break from taking care of puppy). take her out.. feed her.. play with her while he takes time to play his games or cook or other tasks. Try to switch up the routine on her, maybe you should try doing a little more then he does (aka interact with her more) for a little while until she treats you two as equals. and no no this doesn't mean steal her away lol

She may not have bonded as strongly to you but that doesn't mean you have to stop trying. :) See if he does anything differently then you do with her. when we lived together we actually had a hard time bonding her to him and he took some notes from me lol. Different ways to pet her, how to play with her, how you talk to her etc. etc. now its reversed ugh! :)

Goodluck in your bonding! Just remember she loves you and most likely has no idea that she's hurting you.

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Permalink Reply by Stephanie & Lola on April 22, 2008 at 3:40am

My little Lola is a mommies girl. She follows me around and always wants to sit in my lap and cuddle. She takes me pillow over at night and sleeps on my head. I really enjoy all of the love she gives me and we always have an awesome time in the yard or at the beach. The only downside to this is she doesn't listen to me! If we are outside I have to call her a few times to get her attention for her to come to me. If we're inside it's not a problem. But with my boyfriend all he has to do is look at her and she is right by his side. He can just point a finger and she will stop whatever she is doing. We both trained her, and she chooses not to listen to me. I don't know lol

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Permalink Reply by Mochi The Corgi on April 22, 2008 at 2:49pm

Thanks for all the responses. I think what happened was i went away on too many business trips and she just bonded with his way more... sigh i guess i'll try to live with it. Maybe i'll get a boy corgi and he'll love me more! LOL

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Permalink Reply by Lauren on April 22, 2008 at 3:13pm

megan loves my mom and the pups are a little complicated. i have done all the training, excercising, grooming ect. but when i am not home my mom takes care of them and my dad and my bro just play with them. so they kinda like everyone for there own reasons, me, i am there master they do whatever i say whenever i say it they will follow me if i get up but then go back to the rest of my family. my mom is like there mother, loving, lets them out, feeds in morning, ect. my dad and my bro just play and pet so they kinda like everyone for different reasons. i cant wait until summer when i will spend every moment with them...then who will they liek most??? ME!!!!!!!!!!

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Permalink Reply by Becky S on April 25, 2008 at 5:00pm

Brody love both of us, but definitely is more my dog, If he has a choice he will hang with me. At times I think hubby is a little jealous, but he has 2 days a week home alone with him. I'm trying to convince him to let us get a 2nd corgi that would lay on his lap, or hang with him. So far he's not buying it!

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Permalink Reply by CaptainCorgi on April 25, 2008 at 7:56pm

Our previous corgi did that, he was totally utterly obsessed with my sister. He could care less about me or our Nana. He acted like we didn't even exist too! But they seem to be one-man dogs most of the time. Eowyn on the other hand has equal love for all of us and listens to all of us, but since our Nana is head of the house hold, she definitely sees her as all our leader and listens very well to her! You should do some separate bonding with your Mochi, take her for walks by yourself, provide the food for her not your boyfriend, play with her and just spend some quality time with her. That should help! Good luck!

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Permalink Reply by Avyon on April 26, 2008 at 2:22pm

For the food thing try to hand feed her for half of her bowl and then giving the rest to her (so she doesn't expect hand feedings ;) but its a good bond)

and when you give her treats, kneel down and put the treat of your chest so your pup has to come into your zone to get it making her get closer.

Also while the 'watch' command is great for more training it also teaches your pup to watch you constantly. so you may want to try that as well :)

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Permalink Reply by TexasCorgiMom on April 29, 2008 at 2:20pm

We have a male and a female. The male, Kodi, bonded to me instantly. Of course, I was the one staying home with him and taking him out, feeding him, etc. So I was like his mommy. My husband loves him to death but Kodi is definitely more loyal to me. Kodi will growl at him if he tries to hug me. It's not a viscious growl, more like a jealous thing. Ever since I got pregnant he has been even more protective of me. Our baby girl Riley, bonded instantly with my husband. We were bringing her home from the breeder and my husband was driving, and she was sitting in my lap...well she didn't like that! She wanted nothing but to be resting on his chest! They have really bonded well. But now that I stay home all the time, she is bonded to me pretty well too...she follows me around like a shadow! But I think poor Kodi is jealous. He stays under the bed when she is on the bed. He sulks so much!

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Permalink Reply by Vladimir on April 29, 2008 at 8:36pm

Like my twin, StripedTiger, said, try doing 'bonding' activities with her. Have you ever compared your energy with your boyfriend's? Perhaps, your boyfriend is more calmer then you and she likes that more. Or if your boyfriend is more hyper then you, she might like that. (Sorry, I don't know how you act...) but it might be that. I know some dogs go for more hyper energy and sometimes they go for a more calmer energy.

My twin's corgi gives attention to everyone in the household and everyone in the world. I must say, there are things that she REALLY likes from all of us. For example, she LOVES my twin when she plays because I twin loves to get rough with her and barrel her around which Eowyn (our corgi) LOOOOVES so she tends to go to Rachelle (my twin) more when she wants to play. But yeah, try those bonding activities...they just might work ; - )

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