My mom died this morning--July 4, 2012, at 3 a.m. Her suffering is over. This has been a sad year, so far. We lost Stinky Wink in February, then my dad in May, and now Mom. There is definitely a cycl…

My mom died this morning--July 4, 2012, at 3 a.m. Her suffering is over. This has been a sad year, so far. We lost Stinky Wink in February, then my dad in May, and now Mom. There is definitely a cycle to life, birth to death, and all the things in between that make life what it is. The cycle includes people: parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends, spouses and children. It also includes pets that we love, who love us in return, for no other reason than the fact that we belong to each other, and belonging means love.

But in that cycle of our own birth-to-death, there are other deaths that touch our lives--deaths of people and pets that we love. And each of those deaths diminishes our lives somewhat. One life cannot be part of another without creating a void when it is no longer there. The three losses I have had this year have shaken me. I am an orphan. For the first time in my life, there is no generation older than me in my direct family. That is a sobering thought. To my grandchildren, I am the generation that my grandparents were to me. I even grew up with great-grandparents, until well after I was married.

Even though there is sadness in the cycle of life, there is also, in spite of it, great joy that comes flooding over us in the most unexpected ways and at the most opportune times. When I got my boys up this morning, even after the news of my mother's death, they brought me joy. They wiggled, jumped, licked, and made noises (very much like talking), as they always do--unaware of what had happened while they slept. Unaware of the sadness that filled my heart at the moment--yet putting the salve of their love on that pain and reminding me that life continues, the cycle goes on. And they love me because we belong to each other.


Rest in peace, Stinky Wink, my besses puppo. Rest in peace Dad, Rest in peace, Mom.

 Rosalin Joan Martin DeJaynes

24 May 1933---4 July 2012

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Comment by Laura and Tommy Jefferson on July 5, 2012 at 3:31pm
Randy, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother :(
Comment by Michelle on July 5, 2012 at 2:01pm

I am so sorry to hear about you loss.  In November of 2010 my father passed away closely followed by my mother in law in February, 2011 and my father in law May of 2011.  I know what it feels like to have your foundation rocked. 


I had a cousin (who had lost both of his parents earlier) say to myself and my bothers "well I guess ya'll are ophans now to".  While my bothers found that unsettling, my entire attitude was and is I am only an orphan if I allow myself to be.  Remember that many things come and go through our lives making marks and footprints, sometimes family, sometimes friends, sometimes our furbabies, but never think of yourself as alone or an orphan. 


Try to stay positive know that you impact many lives of the people and creatures around you and are loved for it.   Prayers are with you. 

Comment by Chris, Kadi & Brodie on July 5, 2012 at 9:17am

My heart goes out to you, Randy. I know how you feel. Lost my dad last August and my mom this past March. In between those two I lost a great aunt on my dad's side and my last uncle and aunt on my mom's side. It was a tough year. Don't know if I could have survived without Kadi and Brodie. They certainly ease the pain.

Comment by Bev Levy on July 4, 2012 at 9:45pm

So sorry to hear that you lost your Mom. I lost mine 6 years ago and will miss her forever but she lived a good life and brought joy to many. I also am at the age with no parents, grandparents really makes you think about what you want your legacy to be. I am glad you have your corgi puppies to help you focus on the important things in life.

Comment by Jan Connors on July 4, 2012 at 4:47pm

I am sorry to read about your mom. It is a sad day for you, but a good day for her to be released from

the pain. I wish you the best during the next days.

Comment by Teresa Gilpin on July 4, 2012 at 4:34pm

I am so, so sorry for the loss of your mom.  Sometimes life can be so hard!  But, having our family, (our dogs included), can help ease the loss.

Comment by Zigward & Kimberly on July 4, 2012 at 4:12pm

I'm so sorry. I'm crying nooow:[ It's so sad. I'm so happy that you have Huey and Taffy there for you. Ziggy is what helped me really be able to get through my kitty's passing. They're amazing to have around. Give them tons of love and hugs.

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