Ella lost her best friend :(

My Ella lost her best friend, Maverick on Tuesday. We had to help him over the rainbow bridge as he was suffering in the last stages of cancer. Our household is a very sad place right now. I am trying to spend time with Ella and comfort her. However, I find myself having random crying spells and I know this makes her sad. I have to deal with this huge loss of our big boy but it's so hard. I know we did the right thing but there are so many memories and habits of his that keep coming to mind. Everywhere I went, Maverick followed so it's super hard not to think of him every step I take. She has a torn ACL issue which we are trying to deal with without surgery for now so it's been hard to actually play the way she likes with her. I want to take her for a ride but our big guy loved rides and they always went together so I haven't been able to bring myself to even get in the vehicle. The last ride Maverick took was to the vet and he died in my arms in the back of our Jimmy. Our vet was good enough to come out to the vehicle for us since Mavy didn't like going to the vet. If anyone knows what I can do to help My poor Ella cope, I would love to hear your suggestions. She is eating and drinking so I know she will be fine in time. We all will. But for now, our hearts are broken. :(

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Permalink Reply by Holly on March 28, 2015 at 4:08pm

It sounds like Ella and Maverick found what they needed in you! I have no doubt Ella is comforted by your presence and she is surely not judging you for how you may respond to the loss of such a wonderful, beloved pet. I am sure you and Ella will adjust in time, but you have benefitted from the chance to enjoy such a significant love. There is a good chance all loved ones will hold on to everything our most beloved family members left behind. Maverick will always hold a special place in your hearts. Despite significant losses, or perhaps because of them, we have the strength to look past the pain and see the joy, but it is certainly not an easy or fast journey. I wish you all the best and better times ahead.

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Permalink Reply by Cindy Lincoln on March 28, 2015 at 5:29pm

Thank you so much, Holly! I'm glad I'm a part of this site. There's a lot of caring people on here. Your words are very thoughtful and kind and they have helped. Thanks, again.

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Permalink Reply by Linda on March 27, 2015 at 7:53pm

I am so sorry. ella needs to grieve just as you do but holly has some good suggestions.

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Permalink Reply by Cindy Lincoln on March 28, 2015 at 1:37pm

Thank you, Linda.

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Permalink Reply by Beth on March 28, 2015 at 8:36pm

I am so sorry for your loss of your Maverick. It's always so hard to say good-bye.

You can help Ella by doing some fun things with her that won't remind her of Maverick. Maybe visit a new park or get her a new type of toy. It sounds like she is on restricted activity, but can she sit on a blanket in the sun somewhere and enjoy the new smells? It might be good for both of you.

Hugs.

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Permalink Reply by susan on March 31, 2015 at 10:45am

So sorry you have lost your Maverick. Hugs to you and Ella.

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Permalink Reply by Vicky Hay on April 1, 2015 at 9:03am

That's so sad.

Dogs do seem to mourn the lost of a companion. When Walt the Greyhound died of cancer, Anna the GerShep refused to eat for three days. It didn't help, I suppose, that after I got home from the vet that day I sat on the floor and wept for half an hour... Dogs, I'm sure, pick up on human emotions.

It took Anna about a week to get over her overt depression. If you can't take her for walks because of the ACL thing, you may have to make yourself get over the car aversion and give her some rides. Or lift her onto the sofa with you when you're sitting around the house.