Feeling horrible about neutering Buddy. :(

Hey everyone,

Normally Becca makes all the posts, but I (Kevin) had to come here for support today. Tomorrow, Buddy is scheduled to get neutered and have the home again chip "installed"... I feel like a horrible person for doing this. I am currently unemployed and I am with Buddy every waking moment of our lives and I can't even look at him without my eyes welling up. I just feel horrible about having this done. Right now he is smiling and all happy and i'm sure he will be the same on the car ride up tomorrow only to wake up with something missing. Is it just a Guy thing that makes me feel this way? How do I know for sure that he isn't gonna be traumatized?

Bottom line is, I signed a contract when we brought Buddy home and agreed to have it done. Even though, right now it's a huge financial strain... he's 8 months old and he is becoming more aggressive and dominant especially with me. It's easy for me to get mad and think getting him snipped is a good idea, but is this just selfish anger?

Advocates for both sides of this discussion will try make you feel bad about whatever choice you make when it comes to this topic, so honestly, i'm not looking for some political discussion on what you feel is right or wrong.

Any help is appreciated!


Kevin





EDIT: For some reason I can't reply to my own blog. Buddy has been in surgery all day, we will be leaving to pick him up in about an hour. Thank you for all your support and I will update ASAP.

Kevin

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Comment by EMILY T MARSCHOK on July 22, 2010 at 10:35pm
it is the right thing to do ...i have had male corgis all of my life ...it s the difference between him being aggressive or catching a scent and going visiting ...have been there
Comment by Chris West on July 22, 2010 at 4:56pm
Frosty was 14 months old when we had him snipped, and like I said, didn't change a single thing about his personality.
Comment by RILEY, MAGGIE and Christine Kemp on July 22, 2010 at 3:14pm
I signed a contract with Riley's breeder that I would have him neutered, so I didn't have a choice. I would never not have a pup neutered! In the contract, our breeder also said neuter at 8 months (which we did). FYI
Comment by Nicola Porter on July 22, 2010 at 1:38pm
I actually felt the same last week with bootsie (I am a woman) LO was 5 months so he was little and I don't think his personality had been established. We just got Bootsie in May and he was one in May and I was on the same lines as you. He is older, will he change, why am I doing this, he doesn't know what is going on, will he hate me etc etc.
Comment by Chris West on July 22, 2010 at 1:37pm
Frosty came home with the same smile and happy attitude he had when we took him in. It did not change anything about his personality one bit. He has not looked at me with anger or blame, only the same love and adoration as before. It doesn't change who he is as your dog just because he can no longer produce puppies. Just go on loving him as before, he will still be your special buddy!
Comment by John Wolff on July 22, 2010 at 1:19pm
It may not be a pleasant experience, and it may not be without its downside, but it may be less unpleasant than getting spayed [joke about spaying a male dog tactfully deleted :) ].
It might help to think about all the uncounted misery in the world caused and endured by unwanted starving feral dogs in places where there is no spaying and neutering. Population will be controlled by killing, trapping, poisoning, starvation, intraspecies aggression, war, pestilence, or birth control.

A couple of cowboys once walked into a biologist's office, spurs and all, and asked if he could do anything to make wild horses stop having babies. They'd seen the problem firsthand. The result was a one-shot permanent immunosterilization -- a vaccine against the coating on horses' egg cells, rendering innoculated mares permanently sterile. Unfortunately, this approach does not work with cats and dogs. There is some research being funded, meagerly, and maybe someday we'll have a better solution (this was written up in Science recently), but dogs don't have much money, so the magic of the marketplace hasn't done much for them yet.
He'll get through it and he'll be fine. The chip could save his life (neighbors got their cat back this way, long after they'd given up hope). You'll get through it, too.
And remember: dogs will get you through times of no money better than money will get you through times of no dogs. :)
Comment by RILEY, MAGGIE and Christine Kemp on July 22, 2010 at 1:14pm
I traveled the same road you are going down with our first corgi Tucker (who has passed on). I didn't want to have Tucker neutered and didn't until he was 18 months...and only then because of aggression and dominance issues. Tucker became very possesive of me and even bitting my husband (not a good thing) at that point it became a vicious cycle. My husband who tends to be a bit of a hot head was abusive with Tucker. Even after we had Tuck neutered Tuck was in the aggressive mode. Tucker went to an obedience trainer which only taught him to change his behavior not how he actually felt. He only tolerated my husband and was not patient with other people especially men. If I had known then when Tuck was still very young, I would have had him neutered before I had problems. I don't know how you can tell what a pups personality might change if left in tact. I don't envy you this decision and I wish you the best.
Comment by Edward and Gemima on July 22, 2010 at 1:07pm
All I can tell you is we've had 2 males go thru it and both times acted like nothing ever happened from the time we went to pick them up at the vet!! Their personality only gets better. I would imagine it might get a little frustrating for non neutered male corgis if they have no girlfriends...just saying.....
Comment by Beth on July 22, 2010 at 1:02pm
My guy is just as much a boy as he was before the surgery. He still marks his territory, still lifts his little leg as high as he can, and still has quite the eye for the ladies. I grew up riding horses, where intact males are NOT the norm and in fact live incredibly restricted lives compared to their gelded "brothers", so it honestly did not bother me. I had the normal anxiety about the anesthesia, but the fact of getting him neutered did not bother me.

Behaviorally, you are doing him a HUGE favor. Without neutering, he'll still have strong hormonal urges, but not opportunity to express them appropriately. Intact males can get frustrated and express that frustration in ways that are a problem to their owners.

Jack trotted out of surgery the exact same sparkly, mischievous guy that went in. He did not miss anything and did not even know anything had happened.
Comment by Misti, Guinness and Finnegan on July 22, 2010 at 12:31pm
Guinness really didn't act any differently afterwards, except now he rarely marks his territory, even with the new puppy. He was almost 2 when we had it done, so both of us worried that he would be depressed, but we were pleasantly surprised with the outcome. He was very shy and timid when we first got him, and in the last year since it was done, he's become much more social.

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