hurt by what my hubby said=(....
i dont know if i am just over reacting or what but this had been the source of out arguments and its driving me insane!!
ok, as u know we have two dogs teddy and snoopy. teddy(corgi) is a super well behaved dog with no problems what so ever. he loves when kids hug/kiss him hes laid back. never barks, is always friendly to EVERYONE and just loves other dogs. and is laid back but is so very fun to play with, hes wonderful....
snoopy(dachshund) on the other hand was the puppy from h*ll no joke!! but now he is 8months, i have worked really hard to get him to like it when people pet him or even look at him for that matter lol he use to absolutely hated other dogs but now after 8months we finally have a break through! he is horrible on the leach, chews up his harness, collar, bed, pants, clothes, and blankets.... i trying to make is so they dont jump is impossible when u have a hubby who is always rewarding bad behavior, he praises when they jump, etc.
and he is always favoring snoopy like when we go for walks and snoopy barks or looks cute he just says 'aw its ok' and then he thinks its ok to bark at other people when they walk by. he has never once said "aww look at teddy" its always snoopy...he gives treats for no reason to snoopy but never teddy. when we got to the beach he plays with him and never teddy, he just pushes him away when ever teddy even comes up to him for attention. and here the cake topper, he makes fun of him for every thing. he calls him fat boy and retard and says "he isnt even a real dog, he dosnt run to chase a ball" and its like ya, cuz u throw it and snoopy get to it faster. but his excuse is that teddy is to fat. and he isnt at all....
idk guys, sorry for ranting but it upsetting when he does this. snoopy in reality is not a "good dog" even though i have worked really super hard since we got him...
ok, as u know we have two dogs teddy and snoopy. teddy(corgi) is a super well behaved dog with no problems what so ever. he loves when kids hug/kiss him hes laid back. never barks, is always friendly to EVERYONE and just loves other dogs. and is laid back but is so very fun to play with, hes wonderful....
snoopy(dachshund) on the other hand was the puppy from h*ll no joke!! but now he is 8months, i have worked really hard to get him to like it when people pet him or even look at him for that matter lol he use to absolutely hated other dogs but now after 8months we finally have a break through! he is horrible on the leach, chews up his harness, collar, bed, pants, clothes, and blankets.... i trying to make is so they dont jump is impossible when u have a hubby who is always rewarding bad behavior, he praises when they jump, etc.
and he is always favoring snoopy like when we go for walks and snoopy barks or looks cute he just says 'aw its ok' and then he thinks its ok to bark at other people when they walk by. he has never once said "aww look at teddy" its always snoopy...he gives treats for no reason to snoopy but never teddy. when we got to the beach he plays with him and never teddy, he just pushes him away when ever teddy even comes up to him for attention. and here the cake topper, he makes fun of him for every thing. he calls him fat boy and retard and says "he isnt even a real dog, he dosnt run to chase a ball" and its like ya, cuz u throw it and snoopy get to it faster. but his excuse is that teddy is to fat. and he isnt at all....
idk guys, sorry for ranting but it upsetting when he does this. snoopy in reality is not a "good dog" even though i have worked really super hard since we got him...
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Permalink Reply by Jane Christensen on
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Keep up the good work. It is a hard situation and it's never easy when there's 2 opinions! Can you take Teddy to classes to keep encouraging him to do so well (he looks adorable) OR BETTER YET...can you send your husband and Snoopy to classes? That would be the best! All I can suggest is spend time with Teddy alone and keep encouraging the good behavior...he will shine...and maybe your husband will "see the light"! Do keep working with Snoopy alone also if you can find the time...he needs you to teach him manners! Good luck!
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Permalink Reply by Chris West on
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I totally agree with Jane. You should send your husband and Snoopy to obedience class. If your husband is anything like mine, he is more willing to listen to a stranger's advice than yours. He may be more willing to listen to what an instructor has to say about rewarding bad behavior. This would maybe open your husband's eyes AND at the same time provide a way to keep working to make Snoopy a more well behaved dog. As for him favoring one dog over the other, I would recommend just considering that Teddy is your dog and Snoopy is his dog. Nothing you say or do is going to make your husband like Teddy if he doesn't like him now. Teddy's feeling are not hurt by your husband calling him fat. Whenever he gives Snoopy extra attention and treats, you can give the same to Teddy. Good luck and try not to let it bother you, sometimes husbands just don't make any sense.
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Permalink Reply by Rebecca Marie O'Bryan on
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that is true, i have tried to make him see that teddy is wonderful but he just wont have it:( i wish i could send them both to a training class lol get them outta the house for some just me and teddy time haha. i try not to let it bother me but o man, i just feel so bad
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Permalink Reply by Becky Ivey on
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Keep in mind that Snoopy isn't no where near as upset about this as you are. You feel like your husband is showing favortism to Teddy & hurting Snoopy. You need to sit your husband down when ya'll are not fighting, look him in the eyes, & tell him this behavior hurts you. Be specific & brief. "It hurts me when you treat Teddy better than you treat Snoopy. I want you to play with Snoopy, give Snoopy a treat when you give Teddy one, and stop calling him fat and retarded." That's it. No long discussion. That sentence lets him know exactly how you feel. If his behavior does not change you have a couple of choices to make. You must accept it (meaning you accept his mistreatment of your dog as a fault of his & no longer get angry, sad, or disappointed about it & no longer resent him for it). You get rid of the dogs & get no more pets & do not have any babies until he grows up (at least 5 years). If this he keeps mistreating the dog & you keep harboring anger & resentment over it, your marriage will not be a good one.
Good luck!
Becky- married 19 years (most of those happily lol)
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we have had a happy marriage so far, but the dog subject is one that gets up fired up, ya know? i have tried to talk to him but he will just say the mean things to him when he thinks im outta ear shot (when im not!) guys r weird lol
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Permalink Reply by Bev Levy on
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I am celebrating 35 years of marriage with my husband this fall so I think I can say with some experience that you probably will not change your hubby's opinion. If you can get him to go to classes I agree that would be best. My husband and I took ours to classes together and it was fun. Your spouse will always believe someone else over you! (wonder what Dr Phil would say) My husband definitely likes Izzy a lot more than Sparty. Her personality (think "hero worship") suits him more than Sparty (think "hmm, do I want to do that for her/him"). I am OK with that because Sparty suits me really well and likes my husband in spite of the names he calls him sometimes.
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Permalink Reply by Kimberlie on
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I agree with your husband and snoopy going to obedience and you should enroll yourself and teddy as well and have a little healthy competition to prove that teddy is a good dog and smart dog. If like my man nothing opens their eyes and changes their mind like a little bit of healthy competitions to entice them. Mine always knocked me when i said that she was so easy to train and listened so well. Because she wouldn't listen to him that well. Until one day we went to the dog park and I decided to do some training there with the other dogs being a distraction. First I got him to start. He told Adora to freeze and he ignored, I then told her to and she did it perfectly. We kept going as a bit of a competition. Now how has been training with her while I’m at work. So one day he can out beat me lol.
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lol. i would love to enroll in a class, i think it would be fun too:) the only classes offered though is through petco/petsmart. they r a bit pricy but i think it will be great for us. i actually had that happen to me both dogs respect me and know that im the "pack leader" so i only have to say it once but for my hubby he has to say it multiple times or they will just walk away, so i have to jump in and he gets so amazed by how they listen to me right away
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Permalink Reply by christy fry on
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I brought home Shuffles when my Grandfather passed away and Greg didn't like him at all. Shuffles was timid and a fear biter and he got Greg 3 times the first year with the last bite being an ugly scene with me in between them and alot of screaming at each other (Greg and I ) but he was trying to force things with Shuffles as he'll drop that bone because I want him to stuff....but and I won't elaberate to much the end result was Shuffles was mine and and he wasn't to be worried about my dog anymore that lasted about a year and slowly those 2 warmed up to each other and became buddies. Greg felt his loss as much as I did in the end. You may have to accept that there are 2 dogs and 2 owners and thats allright..=)
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i agree:) teddy is mine and snoopy is his lol (even though i still correct,walk, feed, train, etc) for him lol
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Permalink Reply by Jennifer Markley on
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My husband is the same way. The opinion has to come from a vet or an obedience instructor for my husband to pay attention.
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Permalink Reply by Kieu Huynh on
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Sorry to hear that. I have a similar situation where my sister and her boyfriend are like that with my pup. They're into "designer breeds" and they even went so far as calling Kipper ugly. It bothers me, but honestly, it doesn't seem to bother my pup. She seems content with the attention everyone else gives her. Even if she didn't have any love from my sister, she is loved by almost everyone else. Her trainers, my bf, my brother, and most importantly me! So, don't worry too much. Even if your hubby doesn't love Teddy, I'm sure many other people love him and I'm sure he's happy. Although, you might want to tell him it bothers you that he calls Teddy names. If he cared, he would tone it down.
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